Monday, September 29, 2008

Little Miss Sunshine!






Katya is loving 7th grade, soccer, dance and emailing her cousin Tyler! Our house is just a flurry of activity from 5:45 AM until 9 PM!
She is #5 again in soccer and her team is doing very well. She missed a game yesterday because we were in Connecticut but she's back on the field this weekend for two more games.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Wild Wonderful West Virginia





To celebrate Katya's one year anniversary in our family and in America we went white water rafting in West Virginia last weekend. We had a BLAST! Katya is an adrenaline junkie just like her Mama so it was a perfect way to celebrate! Next year we can raft down the Gauley River which is an even more adventurous and wild ride. (Age minimum is 14 years old!) It was great to be back in West Virginia, one of the prettiest states in the nation.
The first photo is Katya jumping off a rock into the New River. How fun is that!!
Take me home, country roads!

Friday, September 5, 2008

One year ago today....




It was one year ago today that Katya and I came home from Russia. The progress we've made in one year is astounding!

To celebrate Katya's one year anniversary we are going white water rafting in West Virginia this weekend. We figured since Katya loved roller coasters she'd love the rush of white water rafting. Hopefully Hurricane Hannah won't interfere with our plans.

Seventh grade is going well for Katya and she seems happy with her teachers. She loves being in junior high and out of elementary!

I'll post rafting photos next week. Thanks for checking in.

Sunday, August 10, 2008

A beauty shop, a beach and a best buddy!







August 2nd- Katya's first wedding, which of course meant a trip to the beauty shop for a lovely updo!

August 3rd - 10th: Outer Banks, North Carolina with Katya's best buddy Elizabeth. We had a great week in Duck, North Carolina in a beautiful beach house with beautiful weather! The great weather followed us home too, it's currently 69 degrees with low humidity...in August!

Friday, July 25, 2008

Priorities



I loved Randy Pausch. Now there was a man who had his priorities straight. Family before everything. Take time out. When you can spend time with family, do it. There might not be a next year.

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

I Believe in Miracles



Things at the Buoni house couldn't be better. Our Little Miss Sunshine could not be sweeter, more loving or affectionate. Our attachment therapy was a success, and she looks at Fred and me frequently telling us she's a lucky girl! She tells us without prompting that she loves us, and seems to not want to be away from us for longer than a few hours. We were told many times that the attachment therapy takes months or even years to work so we are very fortunate. She's started going on walks with Fred in the evening where they discuss and solve the world's problems!

Sunday was Katya's 13th birthday! She had a lovely little party at home followed by a full day at Kings Dominion Amusement Park yesterday. It was the hottest day so far in Northern Virginia with a Code Red air quality rating, but there we were in the midst of it all riding every single roller coaster in the park! (My neck will never be the same!) Katya commented at the end of the day that maybe I wasn't as old as she thought because I even rode the "stand-up" roller coaster! I guess we have to earn our parent points any way we can. Katya received a brand new bike for her birthday, so now Fred and I need bikes to keep up with her! I'll post a photo of Kat on her new Schwinn tomorrow.

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Things are really going well!

Hi Everyone-

I am so sorry that I haven't blogged since Katya's return; I know everyone is anxious to hear how she is adjusting.

Things have gone extremely well since Katya came home on June 21st. She learned a great deal at the facility where she spent a month. If you asked Katya about it, she will tell you it was a "horrible, terrible place, the worst place in America." She would also tell you it is where she learned about respect and how to obey her parents. The woman who operates the facility, Miss Lesia, is a miracle worker whose calling in life is to work with children with defiance and attachment disorders. She is truly an angel sent from God to answer parent's prayers! Katya loved her but loathed her at the same time. I believe Katya so hated being at "Miss Lesia's" house that she will behave just to avoid going back. Whatever Miss Lesia did, it worked, and Katya is definitely attaching to Fred and me.

Katya and I are following a pretty rigid schedule during the week when it's just the two of us at home. We have a little more flexibility on the weekends but we still have order and structure. Katya has no "privileges" yet, but she is working toward earning a birthday party on July 20th. We are under the guidance of her behavioral analyst who we visit bi-weekly. Nadya takes all the guess work out of parenting Katya.

I appreciate all the love and prayers that everyone sent our way during Katya's stay at the center, or rehab as we jokingly call it. (We have to find some humor in the situation or we'd go nuts!) Thanks everyone and keep those prayers coming! This is just the beginning of a very long journey. We celebrated the 10-month anniversary of Katya's citizenship yesterday and if you could hear her English you'd be amazed! If only we could all learn that quickly!

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Life in Putin's Russia

Fascinating article from Sunday's Washington Post. Please take the time to read- you will be wiser for it!

Life in Putin's Russia

By Julia Latynina
Sunday, June 22, 2008

MOSCOW On Nov. 9, 2007, during a special operation in the village of Chemulga, in the republic of Ingushetia, Russian special forces shot and killed an individual by the name of Rakhim Amriyev. Eyewitnesses said that they shot him in the head and placed an automatic rifle beside his body. Then, as dozens of villagers who had run out of their homes looked on, the troops used an armored personnel carrier to demolish a wall of the one-room house where Amriyev lived and announced that he had died in a shootout.

You may ask how I can be sure that things happened this way -- that Amriyev didn't fire back, that he wasn't a terrorist and that the automatic rifle was planted. I'm absolutely certain -- because Rakhim Amriyev was 6 years old.

The most striking thing about everyday life in the Russia of Vladimir Putin (and make no mistake, it is Putin's Russia, despite the election of a new president, hand-picked by the great man) is the incredible corruption of the courts, the police, the special forces -- all the institutions that are supposed to uphold law and order in a democracy and that in Russia today have been transformed into a cancer that's devouring the state. Consider these further examples:

On May 20, 2005, in Moscow, a car driven by the son of Defense Minister Sergei Ivanov struck and killed 68-year-old Svetlana Beridze as she crossed the street. Beridze, who was in the crosswalk, was hit with such force that she was thrown high into the air and the keys in her handbag were crushed. No criminal charges were brought against the minister's son, who, his father publicly stated, had "experienced physical and emotional suffering" as a result of the accident. Instead, in what appeared to be an effort to intimidate the dead woman's family, authorities opened a criminal investigation against her son-in-law, for allegedly assaulting the minister's son.

Last Sept. 10, Muscovite Natalia Trufanova was driving to her dacha with her family in her old Zhiguli when a motorcade carrying Supreme Court President Vyacheslav Lebedev came speeding down the road toward them, driving in her lane. One of the vehicles in the motorcade tore through Trufanova's car. Eyewitnesses reported that the head of the Supreme Court kept going, leaving it to his underlings to comb through the bodies and the heap of twisted metal. Without batting an eye, the police declared that Trufanova had "driven into the oncoming lane," which meant that, if she survived, she could be brought to trial. When angry witnesses started posting video on the Web clearly showing that it was the motorcade that was driving in the wrong lane, the lead investigator looking into the accident said that he didn't have access to the Internet.

On a rainy September evening a week after Natalia Trufanova fell under the wheel of justice, I witnessed an accident on Moscow's government thoroughfare -- the famous Kutuzovsky Prospect. A silver Lexus, traveling at what looked to be about 90 miles an hour, flew out of the far left lane and crossed four lanes of oncoming traffic, crashing into several cars. As I drove past the scene of the accident, the wind blew bits of crushed metal, pieces of cloth and broken glass along the asphalt; bodies still sat in some of the cars. Within the hour, I learned that the driver of the Lexus was a 27-year-old woman with no known occupation; with her in the car was a deputy minister of economic development.

I learned this from a mutual friend (of mine and the deputy minister's) named Pavel, who had rushed to the scene. The minister was already dead; the young woman was in a daze, due to either pain or drugs. A police sergeant, cheerfully surveying the pile of bodies the girl had left in her wake, asked Pavel in the most businesslike fashion: "So, how are we going to solve this problem?" Apparently they "solved the problem" -- they didn't even bring charges against the woman.

Strange but true: It's not only ministers, their wives and their children -- as well as their lovers -- who are going unpunished, but also high-priced prostitutes, high on cocaine, with important addresses in their little black books.

Crime in Russia is hardly being investigated. In May of last year, the body of 4-year-old Nastia Mokryakova, her throat slit, was found in the woods outside Moscow. What do you think the police told the news media? "The child got lost and died of exposure." A month later, in the Moscow suburb of Tomilino, some maniac strangled 10-year-old Nastia Butenkova, and the first thing the police did was to say that the girl, who'd been found on a staircase with her pants pulled down around her ankles, may have caused her own suffocation. (A public outcry ultimately led to an investigation of both murders.)

It's not as though this unwillingness to investigate is limited to crimes whose victims are poor. On Dec. 6, 2007, Oleg Zhukovsky, a prominent banker who worked with major clients of the state-run bank VTB, was apparently killed in his suburban dacha. The killers reportedly tied the victim's hands behind his back, put a plastic bag over his head and threw him into the pool. Before killing him, they apparently forced him to write a suicide note. "Suicide!" the police promptly declared. It's hard to believe, but their unwillingness to investigate the death of a high-ranking banker had nothing to do with politics or the state. The police simply can't be bothered.

Of course, there are some crimes that the police do investigate. They accused an acquaintance of mine of giving $20 million to the leader of the Chechen terrorists. Another person I know was accused of trying to privatize the air space above the Arctic Ocean. Of a third, a prosecutor wrote that his bank was trying to foment a revolution and overthrow Putin. These three suspects all had something in common: They are on the Russian Forbes 100 list.

A fourth acquaintance of mine isn't on that list. He was simply building a high-rise in the southern city of Makhachkala. The local prosecutor telephoned and asked him what discount he'd give him on an apartment in the building. "Twenty percent," my acquaintance replied. The prosecutor thereupon ordered an investigation that turned the man's company upside down, then called again and demanded a 50 percent discount.

Is this the legacy of the Soviet past? Not at all. In the Soviet Union, criminals were thrown into prison along with the dissidents. Is it the legacy of former president Boris Yeltsin? There was nothing like this under Yeltsin.

This is the distinctive nature of the Putin regime.

Under Putin, the Russian businessman has been transformed into game being hunted by people in epaulets. Who was the first victim of this hunt? Oil company executive Mikhail Khodorkovsky, who was sentenced to eight years in prison for tax evasion in 2005, and his company, Yukos, which the government dismantled and sold off after his arrest. Who was the hunter? Then-president Putin.

The right to commit crime has become part of official privilege. If the victim doesn't raise a fuss, no one is punished. If the victim appeals to the public, he or she is harshly punished. The very fact of appealing to the public is perceived as a challenge to the regime. But who laid down these rules of the game? Who never punishes his friends? Putin.

In the republic of Ingushetia, death squads are executing people. They're being shot in front of witnesses, in crowded places, in market squares, at bus stops, and then weapons are being planted on them and they're being photographed as dead "terrorists." In some instances, the crowd has shielded the intended victims. In others, the local Ingush police have nearly beaten the Russian executioners to death. Who's being killed? Those on the so-called Wahhabi lists. These lists were compiled at the order of the FSB (the successor to the KGB) soon after the Moscow theater massacre of 2002, in which Chechen terrorists took an audience hostage and 130 people died when Russian special forces stormed the theater.

But who ordered these lists to be drawn up? Who would think, to stop the problem of terrorism in the northern Caucasus from spreading, of executing fundamentalist Muslims wholesale, simply for their convictions, not for any crimes that they may have committed? Such an order couldn't have been given without Putin's knowledge. In the 1970s, then-Israeli prime minister Golda Meir had those who had taken part in the massacre of Israeli athletes at the 1972 Munich Olympics annihilated. But since the Moscow theater incident, Putin has gone her one better -- he has even wiped out people who had nothing to do with it.

Each such execution, however, has created more terrorists than it has eliminated, and for all intents and purposes, Russia has lost control of Ingushetia -- the only republic where authorities have fully followed the execution order. Who will dare to inform the great Putin, the former KGB man, the courageous hero, who happily sits for photographs in the cockpit of a fighter plane and poses bare-chested on a fishing trip?

In the West, people read that Putin has restored Russia's power and strengthened the ruling hierarchy. This is the image that the PR agencies he has hired are trying to project. There may not be democracy in Putin's Russia, they say, but there is order.

Don't buy it. The Russian authorities aren't in control of the country -- unless we consider their ability to throw any businessman in prison and seize his company to be control. And yet these guys really think they're strong -- and that the measure of a ruler's strength is the amount of cash in his bank accounts.

latynina@novayagazeta.ru

Julia Latynina is a Russian journalist, novelist and radio host.

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Homecoming

On a scale of 1 - 10, with 10 being the highest, yesterday was an 10!!

Monday, June 16, 2008

Katya is coming home on Saturday



Fred, Katie and I had a three hour visit with Katya on Sunday. We took her out to dinner and for ice cream. It was wonderful to see her and she seemed genuinely glad to see us! She was thrilled and relieved when we told her she was coming home, and then talked of nothing else for the rest of our visit. She understands things will be different and accepted that fact without argument. Her behavior analyst is coming to the house this week to give us guidelines, advice and encouragement!

Dr. Federici will give us the results of her tests later this week and we are anxious to get the full report. The more information we have, the better equipped we are to help Katya.

I'll post when we get the test results.

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Encouraging news!


Today was appointment day! The doctor gave Katya a series of psychological tests and also conducted an in depth interview to learn more about her life prior to being in our family. Dr. Federici speaks fluent Russian so Katya was a little more relaxed and able to speak freely during the interview. Thankfully, with much hard work and intensive counseling, Dr. Federici sees a positive outcome for Katya. This is great news. During our last appointment he was preparing us for the worst. He told us today that he had a post-institutionalized child in his office last week and all he wanted to do was call an exorcist! We will see the full results of the tests early next week but he was pleased with what he learned so far. A few positives are:
*Katya has a normal to above normal IQ. (This makes therapy SO much easier)
*She does NOT want to go back to Russia
*She is on grade level academically (in Russian) which means she will catch up faster
*She does not like where she is now and does not want to go back (which will be helpful in her behavior modifications)
Dr. Federici referred us to a behavior analyst that he has trained to work with Eastern Bloc children. She will design an intervention plan for Katya's return. Her website is:www.alternativebehaviors.com and her name is Nadya Molina. I took it as a positive sign that he decided not to be Katya's primary mental health provider. Nadya will come to our home and help us map out a plan for Katya, however we will still be following Dr. Federici's basic outline of attachment therapy which is broken down into three levels. We will enter into Level One when she comes home and it will last anywhere from four to six weeks. Katya's five major rules are:
1. You must remain within three feet of a parent at all times.
2. You will have no contact with anyone besides your parents, Katie and Steven.
3. Your parents decide what you are required to do each day.
4. There will be no TV, radio or any other distractions.
5. You must be successful at level one before you begin level two.
I asked Dr. Federici about medication, and he said she may benefit from Wellbutin but that will be determined later. (I should have asked him about medication for ME to get through Level One!)
Katya will be coming home on June 21st. We had to delay her homecoming because Fred has a business trip all next week and the doctor said he should be home the first few weeks after her return.
We were told to remove everything from her room except her bed and a lamp. It hastens "people" attachment NOT to have material things in which to attach. This will be an exhaustive and intense four to six weeks but it's what we have to do.
We hope to visit Katya before she comes home and are awaiting a call from the facility's director about a possible visit this weekend.


From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia:
Attachment therapy is the term most commonly used by practitioners and critics for a controversial category of alternative child mental health interventions intended to treat what practitioners describe as attachment disorders. The term generally includes accompanying parenting techniques which proponents consider as important as the therapy itself. Attachment therapy is a treatment used primarily with fostered or adopted children who are believed to have certain behavioral difficulties, including disobedience and lack of gratitude or affection for their caregivers. The children's problems are ascribed to an inability to attach to their new parents because of suppressed rage due to past maltreatment and abandonment.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

We should have answers soon



I'm sorry I haven't posted lately but there hasn't been much news. Fred and I did get to talk to Katya on Sunday evening and she sounded good. We take her for her testing tomorrow so we will see her for the first time since May 29th. We won't get to spend much time together because we are only transporting her to and from the appointment but at least we'll get to give her a hug! Hopefully Dr. Federici will provide some answers soon after the testing so we can begin the healing process.

When I get really down I watch Randy Pausch's "Last Lecture" on the computer to make me feel better. I need some positive influences now versus the doctor's many doom and gloom scenarios. Isn't it weird that I turn to a dying man to cheer me up...
One of my favorite parts of the lecture is when Randy says, "When we are facing death it's not the things we do in life that we regret, but the things we don't do." I want to do everything in our reach to help Katya and try to undo what horrors were done to her as a child. I am realistic and know that we cannot wipe out all the bad memories but at least we can give her the emotional strength and unconditional love to heal. Fred and I both know it will be a long and painful journey but we are determined.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

What great friends we have


Fred and I are so blessed with wonderful and supportive friends. We could not have made it this far without the kind and encouraging words and actions of our dear friends. We truly appreciate the phone calls, flowers, emails and cards that have flooded our mailboxes. Your kindness is keeping us afloat! How lucky we are to have such a fantastic circle of support!! From the depths of our hearts...THANK YOU.

Sunday, June 1, 2008

Update


Fred and I picked Katya up at the center and took her to Dr. Federici's office on Thursday. Katya was very talkative and peppy on the drive over, but her mood quickly changed once she met with the doctor. She told him some pretty disturbing things, most of which I don't want to get into now. By the time we left she was pretty agitated and the drive back to the center was silent. Dr. Federici told us we probably have two years of intense therapy ahead of us, along with radical changes at home, such as living by a highly structured, unbending schedule including not being more than three feet away from Fred or me for the forseeable future. We are putting our faith in this doctor because frankly, we have no other choice. We must heal Katya.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

What we know for sure


Sadly, Katya did not benefit from adequate parenting during her early years. Her foundation for healthy development was non-existent, making it difficult if not impossible for her to form loving, lasting, intimate relationships. This condition, known as attachment disorder, was triggered by abuse, neglect, abandonment, separation from birth parents and frequent moves from grandparents homes to several orphanages. Children with attachment disorder are less responsive to direction, less eager to please and more aggressive. These children are at increased risk for serious psychological problems in adolescence and adulthood. Fred and I are praying that proper diagnosis and treatment will help change Katya's life.

To explain further, attachment disorder is developed when children do not form a trusting bond in infancy and early childhood. A lack of trust generates feelings of aloneness, being different, pervasive anger and an inordinate need for control. Pervasive anger and the need for control are Katya's two biggest behavioral issues. A trusting bond is essential in continued personality and conscience development and serves as the foundation for future intimate relationships.

Dr. Terry Levy wrote in his book, Attachment, Trauma, and Healing: "Most professionals who work with and study the process of bonding and attachment agree that a child's first eighteen to thirty-six months are critical. It is during this period that the infant is exposed in a healthy situation to love, nurturing, and life-sustaining care. The child learns that if she has a need, someone will gratify that need, and the gratification leads to the development of her trust in others."

Fred and I may never know the full extent of what Katya suffered through in Russia, but we do know that we will do everything in our power to try to make the rest of her life happy, secure and full of joy.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Memories of Memorial Day Weekend



Fred and I trudged through Memorial Day weekend with long faces and heavy hearts. We were thrilled we were able to visit Katya but it was hard leaving the facility without her. We tried to stay as busy as possible so our quiet and very neat house wasn't so noticeable! On Saturday, Fred cut up one of his old Datsun 240's with a Sawzall and took the unwanted pieces to the dump. I worked on a scrapbook at a friend's house while Fred was sawing away! We enjoyed a nice dinner with my friend Vicki on Saturday night. Sunday was a wonderful day thanks to our friends the Heaths. Skip and Sue's son Tyler just returned from his second tour in Iraq, and as a Harley-Davidson owner, one of his dreams was to participate in Rolling Thunder, a motorcycle ride in Washington, DC. Rolling Thunder's purpose is to publicize POW-MIA issues and to educate the public on the American prisoners of war who were left behind. They are also committed to helping American veterans from all wars. We watched the Northern Virginia contingent of motorcycles leave Fairfax and ride to Washington, DC. It was a spectacular site and exciting to watch thousands of motorcycles ride together paying tribute to the heroes of America. Tyler and my Steven grew up together, first meeting as Webelo Scouts in 5th grade. After watching the motorcycles, the Heaths had us back to their home for a delicious brunch. We returned to their house that evening for a cookout on their beautiful deck. It was a wonderful day spent with dear friends and an American hero! Tyler will be discharged from the Army next month and is moving to Colorado to pursue his education. It was a good day.

Monday was movie day, but both movies we saw were so-so. Made of Honor was a disappointment and the new Indiana Jones movie was so violent I had my eyes covered through half of the movie. Would someone out there PLEASE make a decent movie!!

Monday, May 26, 2008

We visited Katya this morning

We had an early morning visit with Katya today. She seemed glad to see us...until we whipped out our new house rules. (Lesia, the director, had us email our house rules in advance.) Katya had to read them to us and repeat the rules several times. Lesia said Katya will have them memorized and will recite all seven to us on our next visit. After those are memorized, we will work on Katya's specific rules. The purpose of the rules are many, but the bottom line is that Fred and I are in control of EVERYTHING. I will have to write a schedule for the summer and we will follow it to the letter. Every minute of the day will be scheduled.

The entire time we were reviewing the rules Katya's brows were furrowed and she said "but....." many times, however we squelched the "buts" quickly. The idea that she will have no free will is hard for her to accept. "You are not the boss of me" mentality will be difficult to break, but we will be successful. Lesia is hoping Katya will have some type of meltdown soon so she can see how unglued Katya becomes and help her find ways of coping with sadness, anger and disappointment. Lesia wants the honeymoon period to be over. The sooner it is over, the sooner she can help Katya deal with her anger. Katya sees Dr. Federici on Thursday, so we will have more information at that time.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

A week has gone by...

For the last week, Fred and I have been walking around in a daze, not knowing what to do with ourselves. We went from 100 miles an hour to a complete stop. School, soccer practices, soccer games, tutor sessions to nothing. We have been trying to hold each other up, to nurture one another and be encouraging. We think of Katya every second, wondering what she is going through, what she is doing and how she is feeling. We did hear from the center director, and she said she was “fine.” I hate that word. It really doesn’t mean anything. She said that Katya misses us, so that is encouraging!

Dr. Federici will be meeting with Katya next week to determine her state of mind and to give us an idea of how long he feels she should stay at the center. I want Katya to stay long enough to learn basic issues such as respecting authority, parent/child relationships, etc., but I don’t want her to stay so long that she feels completely abandoned. Her stay there must be effective or we will have wasted weeks of healing and thousands of dollars. As soon as Katya earns enough points, she will be allowed to call home, and needless to say, we are very anxious to hear from her.

For those of you who have reached out to us, THANK YOU! We appreciate all your encouraging words and prayers. Fred and I definitely feel the love from our village! As promised, I will keep you posted on Katya’s progress.

Sunday, May 18, 2008

A Turning Point



We have had what may seem like a major setback but it could also be looked at as a turning point as well.

Since bringing Katya home eight months ago, she has struggled with authority, respecting her elders and generally obeying Fred and me. She tried to live under the general rule of I AM THE BOSS OF ME! She balked at the idea of homework lasting more than 15 minutes and accepting the fact that academics superseded play. In many ways Katya is a four-year-old trapped in a 12-year-old body. Katya built a brick wall around her soul and spirit that we were finding hard to penetrate. She commented soon after arriving in America that she had no idea there would be so many rules! Even though the orphanage had a structure and schedule, the orphans formed their own governing society and ruled by intimidation, manipulation, threats and physical violence. Think Lord of the Flies. Fred and I thought that over time she would settle down and conform to family life and hierarchy and accept the fact that we are in fact the boss of her! The fact remains that Katya is struggling to find a new identity after 12 years of being abandoned in an orphanage. For 12 years she had no sense of the outside world and no perception of her future; she was living for the moment. Day-to-day survival became her way of life. She trusted no one, and still hasn’t learned that she can trust Fred and me.

It became apparent last month that we needed help. Katya’s threats and physical violence were escalating and we felt she was a danger to herself and to me. After consulting Dr. Federici and her pediatrician it was decided to place her in a facility that serves as a respite home and a place where Katya can learn to live in a very structured and rigid environment ruled by adults. Of course Fred and I attempted this at home but Katya would have none of it! This home is ruled with an iron fist and it will hopefully help Katya understand the parent-child/adult-child relationship and the importance and acceptance of living under the umbrella of authority and respect. Our concern was that Katya would once again feel abandoned, but Katya was told she was in this home for two reasons. The first reason was that her parents loved her very much. Second, that she needs to learn the source of her angry feelings and learn to control her angry feelings without hitting. She seemed to understand this and resign herself to the fact she needed help that was beyond the reach of her parents.

Once Dr. Federici feels the staff has made progress in breaking down her wall and will, he will begin an intensive course of 10 hours of therapy a week. We have no idea how long it will take to undo 12 years of living in an institution and years of neglect and abandonment. WE WILL NOT GIVE UP ON THIS CHILD. There is no such thing as a hopeless child. We will do whatever it takes for Katya to feel loved, accepted and a part of her family again.

We will keep you updated and would appreciate your prayers at this time.